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Some worry after having a baby is normal. Postpartum anxiety is different: the worry is constant, hard to switch off and starts to get in the way of eating, sleeping or enjoying your baby. It is common, it is not a sign that you are a bad mother, and it can be treated. Cleveland Clinic's page on postpartum anxiety puts it at about 1 in 5 women, and notes the real figure is hard to pin down because many women never mention it.
What it can feel like
Anxiety shows up in the mind and in the body. Signs that Cleveland Clinic lists include:
- feeling on edge and unable to relax or calm down
- fears that keep returning even when you know they are unlikely
- panic attacks
- a racing heart or palpitations, feeling short of breath
- nausea, stomach aches or restlessness
- broken sleep, including lying awake while the baby sleeps
Anxiety and postnatal depression often come together. The NHS page on postnatal depression includes "feeling fearful, anxious, or worrying all the time" among its symptoms, along with feeling hopeless, finding it hard to bond with your baby and having thoughts of harming yourself or your baby. These feelings can start in pregnancy, soon after birth, or any time up to a year after.
Baby blues or something more
Feeling weepy, anxious or irritable in the days after birth is common. The NHS says this usually passes within 2 weeks of the birth. If the worry is still there after that, or is getting worse, it is time to talk to your doctor rather than wait for it to fade.
Things that help day to day
None of these replace treatment if you need it, but they are the steps both the NHS and Cleveland Clinic suggest alongside it.
Say it out loud. Tell your husband, your mother, a friend, your gynaecologist or a counsellor how you actually feel, not the version you think you should feel. In many Indian homes there is a lot of advice and not much room to admit you are struggling. Naming it to one person who listens is a real start.
Protect your sleep and rest. The NHS advises getting as much sleep and rest as you can. If family is staying, ask someone to settle the baby after the early morning feed so you get one longer stretch of sleep. Make night feeds easy: keep water, a snack and a muslin within reach, and wear something you can feed in without changing.
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Eat, drink and move a little. Regular meals, water and a short walk or gentle yoga once your doctor says it is fine are on Cleveland Clinic's self care list. Keep it small: a plate of something you like, a few minutes in the balcony or around the building.
Lower the bar at home. Visitors, cooking and a tidy house can wait. Let relatives help with the house rather than only with the baby, so you are not the one doing chores while others hold the newborn.
Skip alcohol and other substances as a way to cope. The NHS specifically advises against using alcohol or drugs to manage these symptoms.
Find other mothers. A new parents group, in person or online, can make the worries feel less unusual. Ask your paediatrician or hospital if they know of one nearby.
Treatment
Talking therapy, especially cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), helps you notice anxious thought patterns and respond to them differently. Medicines such as SSRIs are also used, and Cleveland Clinic notes that therapy and medicine together appear to work better than either alone. If you are breastfeeding or plan to, tell your doctor, because it affects which medicine is chosen. Do not stop or start any medicine on your own.
In India you can start with your gynaecologist, your family doctor or the paediatrician at your baby's check up. They can refer you to a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. With care, the NHS says postnatal depression usually improves within 3 to 6 months, though it can last longer, which is one more reason not to wait.
When to get help
See your doctor soon if:
- the worry has lasted more than 2 weeks after the birth or keeps getting worse
- you are having panic attacks
- you cannot eat, sleep or look after yourself or your baby
- you feel hopeless or find it hard to feel close to your baby
Get help the same day, or go to the nearest hospital emergency department, if you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby.
A serious condition called postpartum psychosis needs emergency care. The NHS page on postpartum psychosis says it usually starts suddenly within the first 2 weeks after birth, and signs include seeing or hearing things that are not there, strong beliefs that are unlikely to be true, feeling very high or overactive with racing thoughts, rapid mood swings and severe confusion. The mother may not realise she is unwell, so if you notice this in your wife, daughter or daughter in law, get her to a doctor or hospital urgently.
This article is general information and does not replace advice from your doctor.
