A "Perfect Mother"
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What is the definition of a Perfect Mother?
If I scold my child for his/her benefits, then my mother says “you are very strict with your child”
If I pamper my child, my husband says “You are spoiling him”, I never understand that what is the right way to handle a child and being a mother no one can understand better than us to our child, but still people around us always ready to give their advice and suggestions and even this process started when you are pregnant.
“Do not eat this, eat this. This is good for your baby, this is not good for your baby" …bla bla !!
This was the same story with me and I am sure most of the mothers or mom to be here, since I conceived, I had to left the job because of complications during pregnancy after that every single day heard so many suggestions from the family, friends, relatives even from husband. I was like “I am pregnant, I know what is good for baby and what is not” but no, it felt like I am the most foolish person on the earth., that is ok to give your suggestions, opinion but don’t force a mother to follow all of the instructions.
When our new born arrived in this world, again we have to heard and even follow so many I instructions given by elders in the family, and it started again after you became a mother “you have to breast feed him, no need to give him/her bottle feed, kid’s immunity does not improve with this etc…”
I know the benefits of breastfeeding but I do not understand if any mother having any issue related to production in milk or any other health issue then she needs to choose bottle feed.
Even though I was one of the mother as in beginning I was not able to breast feed my baby due to non production of milk but what I heard for this “yeh aaj kal ki ladkiyan apni figure ke chakar mein breast feed nahi karna chahti”
And I was so hurt to hear this, I felt like I do not care of my own child and they all others are so much concern…after some days that was solved and I started breast feed as well as bottle feed as per the baby’s requirements.
Some time our breast feed is not enough to babies so we have to choose bottle feed but I choose both the option till he was 6months after that he continued with the breakfast till 2years along with meal.
Here my point is we as a mother also want good for our kids, but all other family members are always ready to give suggestions, my funda of the motherhood is “Suno sabki karo apne mann ki”
As once my child was 4months old, one of the elder lady in our relation asked me to give him some drops of water, I was like “What?? Even pediatrician never allow water or anything till 6months."
So these kind of suggestions, opinions we all face during motherhood. My suggestions to all the mothers to be or mother that heard all of the suggestions but apply only those which are good for our babies, because no one is going to give you an award that you are a Perfect Mother, so do what is best for your child, because only a mother can understand her children the best like no one else.
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