When to plan a kid?

Hello readers, your blogger Monika is back with another life experience. This time it is a little different. I know the headline says it all. But trust me, after reading this blog even you will think about it.

I met my cousin last week. We were having some casual conversations. She got married 4yrs back so I asked her generally, when are you planning for the kid. She replied without any break why do I need a kid? And many more such questions. I was like what is she talking about? Is she ok? I asked her if she was having any problems conceiving. But she said I don't just feel like getting in this phase of motherhood and she countered my question to me: why did you plan? I was like umm umm no words. But seriously her questions made me think why did I plan? So are you excited to know those questions?

So here are some questions she has in her mind:

1. Why do we need a kid?
2. Aren't we two enough for each other?
3. What are the advantages and disadvantages of having a kid?
4. What about our time?
5. What about my me-time?
6. Why do you need a kid?
7. Are we planning for kids to secure our future?

You all must be wondering what's wrong with the girl. Everyone plans a child post marriage. It's a kind of ritual or tradition we follow, right? But I don't know if her question made me think about how we decide when and why to plan a child. Is it just a tradition to follow?

So here are a few things you can check out before planning a child. This might help you to make a decision.

1. Don't plan a kid just because everyone else is doing so.
2. Talk to your partner about why he needs a child and his responsibility.
3. If you are a working woman then plan accordingly so that it doesn't affect your career much.
4. Are you planning to quit your job after the baby or continue?
5. If you wish to continue how and who will take care of your baby. You can talk to your partner, or family.
6. Keep yourself mentally prepared to accept the changes in your routine, physics, and hormones.
7. Having a child requires a lot of emotional, mental, and physical support.
8. Planning a child is what you and your partner decide. Not because you have pressure from society or family.

Giving birth to a life is the most beautiful and tough procedure a mother goes through. It should be her decision whether she wanted to carry a life within her or adopt a child or just be like this. Don't plan a baby as a tradition to follow, plan it as the beginning of a new life of yours with your baby. It's better to plan and be prepared. You must enjoy each phase of parenthood from the moment of conceiving to carrying a baby, to growing the kid.

Monika Kothari is a blogger outside the experience in import and export company as a Public Relation Executive, Marketing Executive in outdoor media firm. She is a house wife and a mother of beautiful daughter. She is passionate about writing her experience and sharing to the world. 

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