When to plan a kid?
Hello readers, your blogger Monika is back with another life experience. This time it is a little different. I know the headline says it all. But trust me, after reading this blog even you will think about it.
I met my cousin last week. We were having some casual conversations. She got married 4yrs back so I asked her generally, when are you planning for the kid. She replied without any break why do I need a kid? And many more such questions. I was like what is she talking about? Is she ok? I asked her if she was having any problems conceiving. But she said I don't just feel like getting in this phase of motherhood and she countered my question to me: why did you plan? I was like umm umm no words. But seriously her questions made me think why did I plan? So are you excited to know those questions?
So here are some questions she has in her mind:
- Why do we need a kid?
- Aren't we two enough for each other?
- What are the advantages and disadvantages of having a kid?
- What about our time?
- What about my me-time?
- Why do you need a kid?
- Are we planning for kids to secure our future?
You all must be wondering what's wrong with the girl. Everyone plans a child post marriage. It's a kind of ritual or tradition we follow, right? But I don't know if her question made me think about how we decide when and why to plan a child. Is it just a tradition to follow?
So here are a few things you can check out before planning a child. This might help you to make a decision.
- Don't plan a kid just because everyone else is doing so.
- Talk to your partner about why he needs a child and his responsibility.
- If you are a working woman then plan accordingly so that it doesn't affect your career much.
- Are you planning to quit your job after the baby or continue?
- If you wish to continue how and who will take care of your baby. You can talk to your partner, or family.
- Keep yourself mentally prepared to accept the changes in your routine, physics, and hormones.
- Having a child requires a lot of emotional, mental, and physical support.
- Planning a child is what you and your partner decide. Not because you have pressure from society or family.
Giving birth to a life is the most beautiful and tough procedure a mother goes through. It should be her decision whether she wanted to carry a life within her or adopt a child or just be like this. Don't plan a baby as a tradition to follow, plan it as the beginning of a new life of yours with your baby. It's better to plan and be prepared. You must enjoy each phase of parenthood from the moment of conceiving to carrying a baby, to growing the kid.
Monika Kothari is a blogger outside the experience in import and export company as a Public Relation Executive, Marketing Executive in outdoor media firm. She is a house wife and a mother of beautiful daughter. She is passionate about writing her experience and sharing to the world.
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