Should We Be Strict With Our Children?
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A few days back my 4 year old broke one of my favorite vase which was gifted by one of my friend. Yesterday, he broke phone stand. This is what is happening now-a-days at home, and I am sure it is going to happen many times with kids at home.
I was little angry at him but he said sorry that time and after 5 minutes, we were back to normal. I sometimes am not able to understand that why he is not listening to me, and when my husband scolds him, he is so scared that he actually listens to him. As per my experience, a child does not want to listen to “NO, do not do this" every time, and we as mothers feel that we have to scold them every hour, or tell them about something or the other; but when we explain them with love, they listen. Though this may not work every time. What I feel personally is that children are not able to go out, not able to attend school normally, not meeting with their friends, and maybe that’s the reason they get crankier and start throwing tantrums. This is my personal experience with my child.
They do not want to sit for their virtual classes all day; I was talking to my neighbor recently about our kids. Her daughter is elder than my son, but she is also facing the same issue. I gave her the same advise to handle her child calmly, as the whole world is getting frustrating with this pandemic situation, but we, as parents, need to be understanding and patient with our children.
I also control my anger on my child when he is not sitting in his virtual classes. I was getting more angry in the last 2 days, and when my husband said to him that “You should attend class, do not bother mom again”, he said ok! He is now attending his classes and is happy with it, doing his homework etc.
Instead of scolding our children every now and then (though sometimes it is necessary), here is what I think we could do:
Talk to your child and ask them to do things with love they will definitely do it. In this tough time when we all are getting bored at home, just think about them - our bundle of joy, how they are feeling at that point of time. Not scolding children doesn’t mean that let them do whatever they want, if they want to jump on bed and if we know that they will get hurt by doing these things, at such times we need to scold them sometimes as it is required. As they are not able to go out we should play with them, tell them a story, laugh on their jokes, listen their weird story, dance with them, cook their favorite food, teach them new things, let them help you with your household chores, let them do whatever they want - but handle them with love. I know we all mothers also get tired, we also get frustrated some times, but we have to calm our mind and handle this situation and our little champs with lots of love and care - as they needed this.
Mommies, I hope you liked this! I want to know your opinion on it, how you all are handling your child now days? As it gets difficult sometimes! Please share your view on this.
Thanks for reading!
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