Say No: To Always Saying No To Your Child


Say No: To Always Saying No To Your Child

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‘Do not eat that chocolate’, ‘Do not litter around’, ‘Do not go to the movie today’, ‘Do not buy that dress’….How does it sound? Would you like to listen to the word ‘No’ multiple times in a day?

The answer is surely “NO”. Our babies too do not want to listen to this word continuously from us for every other activity that they are doing. As parents, it is our responsibility to monitor the activities that our baby is doing and make sure that he/she is safe while doing so. Somewhere, without realisation and out of impulse we constantly start using this word. It is hard to decide onto the right amount of the number of times this word should be used.  

Children have their own way of exploring things and they are too small to realise what is right and what is wrong. They want to touch, put things in their mouth and throw it around. This is how they learn about the various things in their surroundings and understand how things feel.

Touching things, for example, if they touch a cloth, will generate a nervous impulse and they will understand about how things feel when touched. If they touch mud, that will be a first time experience for them to understand how the softness of mud feels like.

Amidst all this, what we have to be careful about is that they do not put that mud in their mouth or the cloth piece isn’t tiny enough to be swallowed. It is here when we have to use the word NO. Had we, at just the sight of our baby touching the mud said no, it would have left no room for him to explore.

As a parent myself, I identified the three T’s which can give us an alternative to always denying or stopping our children from exploring new things.

  1. Think – Is it really necessary to deny or do you have an alternative in hand?
  2. Talk – If your child is big enough to understand, talk to him as to why he cannot do that particular thing at that time. Explain to him the risks associated, how he would have been hurt or the damage that could have been caused.
  3. Teach – Children will take their time to actually understand the harms and risks associated with all that they do. As a parent, you are required to be patient and gradually help him/her learn.

Having said that, we can either change the situation for the child or take him away from that situation. If we find that a particular toy to be destructive for the child, either change the toy or shift the child’s attention by taking him to a different room.

These small changes can surely have a huge impact. Try and see positive in the activities that your child does. Be a guarding light for your child rather than a barrier with a ‘NO’ tag on it.



Shreha Gupta
Shreha is a budding mom blogger and a home tutor by profession. An MBA by qualification, she loves creating useful parenting content and writing articles.

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  • Posted on by Ridhima

    Very aptly written Sneha.. ❤️

  • Posted on by Swati sodhi

    Very well said Shreya, they have equal rights to do whatever they want to do. As a parents we can’t force them for anything and can’t say “NO” to all the time. They are in growing age and their 1st activity will be a 1st experience for them.. so let them enjoy 😊

  • Posted on by ranju batra

    Great going girl…. I also agree to what you wrote n felt… They ( children) are experiencing things first time… And they have the right to do so… I do make it a point to allow him( shaarav)to do whatever he wants… I m learning that this has made him also the more open for experiential learning and is doing great by far…..

  • Posted on by Maanvi Mathur

    I meant dog, not pop :)

  • Posted on by Maanvi Mathur

    Brilliantly said Shreha. I am not a mom to a child but I am a mom to s small pop. The number of times I have caught myself saying NO to him in a day has recently made me think of an alternative approach, as you rightly outlined. I do think of changing the approach in the way i rebuke him when he does something destructive, example, he is teething right now so he has chewed the coffee table, the corner of the bed, corners of the dressing table (I could really go on!) however, in the heat of the moment, the first reaction is inevitably NO! Thank you for the article, it has made my resolve to not react impulsively stronger and I’ll try and adopt the “alternative” approach too. Happy parenting! :)

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