My Infertility Journey

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This is to all those lovely ladies who are trying for the good news. I am sharing a brief of my personal experience:

Yes, you are not alone. You are among those ladies who are used to the dialogues - Did you visit a gynecologist? Oh who has the problem- you or husband? Do you get your periods on time? You should try new positions. Are you not trying for babies? I will get you contact number for best gynecologist.

I have also heard few extremes like

"You are not blessed with a child because yours was a love marriage and your parents would have cursed you." "You have been cursed by God for Inter-Caste Marriage!"

I told my husband one day - Let us go for IVF treatment just once. Be it positive or negative- I will never ever ask for a treatment again.

We decided to go for it.

What did we do?

1. Visited an eminent Gynecologist cum Infertility Specialist
2. We both - husband and wife were examined, counseled and treated
3. We planned and had a healthy diet as advised
4. We avoided stress - Prayers , Took job lightly, Avoided negative people, concentrated on hobbies, enjoyed all little moments with each other, changed the flat
5. We had all multivitamin supplements given
6. We followed all the instructions as guided by the doctor
7. Took a vacation to prepare for the IVF - ICSI Treatment

And the moment came to test. Guess what -Finally Pregnant!!

No tears of happiness.. Just a smile and had no words to speak. I just remember the doctor saying - Believe Me - You are Pregnant!

On day one of first scan - Doctor again surprised us saying - There are 2 heart beats in your womb.

We were so happy about the Good News until the second scan that revealed that I conceived triplets while one lost the heartbeat. That made us little down until the specialist said that in a way good so because complications will be less.

Every Scan we prayed things to be good. I had gone through few complications. Doctors, Nurses, friends, relatives- Must say were of great support- both Physical and mental.

Delivered my little ones – God blessed us with a Boy & a Girl. They were taken to NICU where they completed 17 days medical care.

I am glad we visited the right place at the right time. I felt that it was all destined! This was the Plan of God.

So, once again Ladies –With my experience I say that -with today’s technology, dream of becoming a Mom is not impossible. All you have to visit the right specialist before it is too late.

I would love to converse on your experience. Please express your thoughts and let me know –

• Are you one of the victims of society torturing you mentally for not conceiving? Who tortures you the most? – In Laws, Relatives or Friends?
• How do you feel when you visit your peers having Kids? Do you notice the topics you usually discussed have changed?
• Do you avoid visiting your peers for the reason of not having babies?
• How do you react when you see a baby? Do you feel that your heart is breaking and you control your feelings?
• Have you got proper guidance from anyone?
• Who do you discuss your feelings with?
• What do you do to control your feelings?
• Do you think the society blames women more than men for not having babies?
• Do you follow the Ovulation Time table and use apps for same?
• Do you spend time browsing How to conceive and other topics related?
• Do you blame your horoscope and fate for not having babies?
• Working Ladies- Do people ask you to quit job and try for babies?
• Are you scared or shy to get treated medically?
• Do you think – It’s an economically, emotionally and time consuming task to go for a treatment & What if it do not work?

Let’s talk ladies. Awaiting your responses!

Sheetal is a God Loving person. An idealist who believes - “If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it “

Former Campaign Planner @ a reputed Marketing Solutions firm.

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