Motherhood's Effect on Women's Identity

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When I became a mother, I was top of the world in achieving the crown of being a mother for my little boy and serving my mother to him for a lifetime. I have forgotten all the pains and tantrums I faced during pregnancy. I don't remember even one incident where I had to face challenges during pregnancy and I only remember the happy moments from the moment the child started kicking in my womb.

One of my friends messaged me after being a mother as she was facing post-maternity postpartum of depression, I immediately called her and said “ See you have to enjoy every moment as a mother”, It's easy to say but we can think it is great challenge to handle, then definitely a great moments we will cherish for a lifetime. By Convincing her to cherish every moment as a mother, I recalled my motherhood moments like “Motherhood’s Effect on Women's Identity”.

I believe the identity of a woman increases in doubles when she becomes a mother. It makes a superwoman, from being a working woman it makes her a full-time mother or being a Housewife which adds more work to her. Either way, a mother has additional responsibility to take care of the child. A Woman who is a daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, or sister becomes a Mother which is a good gift from heaven. 

The identity of a woman is affected by additional responsibilities; it is how she handles it either happy or Sad.  In the beginning where I mentioned my friend who said that she was undergoing postpartum, I explained to her how I cherished every day, month, year till now with my kid. Sometimes I feel my kid is more of a small, chubby, cute one who calls me every time as mother and makes me busy, which also comes out of overthinking and exploring this world. I said to her don't feel that you are undergoing some pain inside of you to make time for yourself, eating healthy food, fitness, and body weight. 

All these are how you are dealing with your life even though you have these challenges. This is where a powerful determination lies in the mother who is a superwoman. For a while, I was in the world of my old days where I spent a full day with my kid like a mother to a cute baby who showed me how powerful I am.

Motherhood is a beautiful phase in life. Instead of getting confused with today's negative assumptions on health, how to deal with Motherhood for new mothers who have given birth to cute little ones, go with the flow, whatever you feel, want to do, want to say, play with the kid, everything. Around you, each and everyone will Suggest  if you like you do or else just ignore. Love what you feel, I have listened to so many stories from my grandma about how they dealt with each kid, My mother, Sister, Mother in law, relative aunties, and neighbours, everyone's journey was unique and so is yours and mine.

Yes, motherhood affects a woman not in a negative way, But additional responsibility which a woman can deal with the power which is within her. The only help she needs from family and society is to cheer her up.

About The Author:

Radhika Madgula is a motivational writer active on LinkedIn and Wordpress social platforms. She was a software engineer for more than a decade , now full time into writing and a proud mother.