Micro Managing Kids As Parents
Are you obsessed with your child all the time? Don’t be surprised, you are not the only one. Nowadays, most of the families have a single child or at the maximum 2. A holistic development from childhood is absolutely necessary. Is micromanagement good or bad as parents?
There is no right answer for this. The key is to balance between managing your child and letting go at certain occasions. As parents we tend to micromanage all the time. So my point is, there should be a strong vigilance level but at the same time, children should have a certain level of freedom.
A lot of small and colorful toys are manufactured and displayed in the shops to attract the eyes of little ones. Parents buy the miniature toys to satisfy the needs of their loved ones whenever they ask. So kids spend time with the toys where they piled up so much at home but sometimes when the kids play unknowingly they tend to put it in their mouth, hence the parent has to micromanage the child to some extent.
Children love to play in a group with their friends. They play either structured or unstructured ways, try to manage themselves and plan their playtime. This is the age where they play together as well as fight. So, as parents keep monitoring on and off.
As mothers, we plan the menu for every meal most of the time. children 0 to 3 years’ child eat the food that their mothers feed, but when the child crosses the age of three and starts going to school, they start nagging their parents for other types of junk food. This type of clash happens because the child is not at the age of understanding the diet pattern. Instead of micromanaging you can be a little flexible.
You have to watch closely what the child is studying. Do not micromanage on grades, compare with other children in academics or non-academics since every child has different grasping potential. Have a touch with the teacher to know whether the child is consistently improving.
As mothers we choose a dress according to the place where we go, but these kids do not understand and they argue with us and take a dress from their wardrobe as they wish. As mothers we have many reasons why we chose this specific dress. This happens in many families where kids do not understand the reasons, as parents, we can give them a choice, rather than being too rigid.
Please read out the situation that I mentioned below and give reasons without fail.
We, as a family, are going out to a metropolitan city to attend a function and eat outside food for a week. Having outside food for a week is bad for kids. As adults, we balance our meals. Already, the child is having stomach upset but the child is not at the right age of understanding. The child keeps nagging the parents for junk food like ice-cream, chips, pizza etc.
How will you manage the situation?
Would you micromanage by deciding for your child ?
Would you reason out with your child and help them make a choice ?
Lakshmi Sakthi Alagappan lives in Thanjavur in Tamilnadu, India. She is an administrative officer at Blossom Public School. She likes reading books, listening to music and surfing.
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