Everyone Is A Judge Around You, Be Your Own Lawyer

Hello readers, I am Monika Dhakad, your writer. I am back again with one of my life experiences. Trust me, I feel so good to share it with you all. So let’s begin.   

From the heading, you might have got some idea about the blog. This is what every individual faces at any stage of life. It is not bound with any gender, age, or region. This blog has specifically dedicated the women or I would say, moms. Let me share some of the journeys of mom.

I communicated with a few mom’s and most of them were housewives or working from home. I won’t reveal their names though😉.

Workplace

She is being judged at her office. She told me that as she has a child, her office members think that she can not perform like others. Ladies, she is performing quite competently and even gets rewarded for the same.

In-laws Family

She says her in-laws judge her a lot. Although I don’t think it’s new. Every married woman would agree. We all have judges around us in our in-law’s families. It is a pity for our society. Why a woman needs to prove herself to every person in her life. She is being judged as she doesn’t like to cook and she chose to be an HR. At present, she is a successful writer too. I am very much inspired by her.

Husband

She is being judged by her husband. This is a little awful. I mean when your life partner judges you, you almost feel broken. It’s been 7 years of her marriage and still, she needs to prove herself. What you say in our Indian society women are taught to be adjusting and compromising themselves.

Children

She is being judged by her child. You know it feels so bad that the life you brought up in the world judges you. You compromise yourself for your baby. When they grow younger they start judging you. She says her son judge her for not being able to do anything professional. She is just a normal housewife. She told me that she wanted to be a designer but due to her commitment to family. She didn’t pursue her dream.

Friends

All your friends are not your best wishes. This lady told me how her friends judge her because her husband helps her with household chores. She said they comment like we never let our husband do any household work or takes care of children. 

Over a WhatsApp conversation with one of my pals Reena. She told me, Monika, people around you will judge you for everything you do but you need to be your lawyer. You must know when to ignore and when to fight back for your self-esteem. Don’t let them take you for granted and don’t get disturbed by what they think about you.

So here are few tips to be your lawyer.

1. Follow your passion with family.
2. Ignore things and people who don’t matter to you.
3. Take a stand for yourself where needed.
4. Grab every opportunity which makes you happy.
5. Make your feelings clear.
6. Don’t explain a presumptuous one.

I know these tips won’t make any less judgment around you. I wish all of you have the belief in yourself and do what is best for you and your family. They say “you are never wrong to do the right thing.”

Monika Kothari is a blogger outside the experience in import and export company as a Public Relation Executive, Marketing Executive in outdoor media firm. She is a house wife and a mother of beautiful daughter. She is passionate about writing her experience and sharing to the world. 

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