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Every Mother Is Different

Every Mother Is Different

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Many of us have heard it through our motherhood journey, “Don’t compare your child with any one”. Every child is different, they will do everything according to their own pace.

Many of us have also heard that ‘No two pregnancy is same.” Each has its own ups and down and their own journey.

I remember when I was pregnant, 2 of my closest friends were also carrying at the same time. Our due dates were just days apart. We use to discuss everything, about morning sickness, nausea, bloating etc. Nothing was ever the same with us. I did not have morning sickness at all. My friend did not have nausea. In fact, my due date was the farthest and my baby came the earliest. Whenever we discuss about it the conclusion was always the same, the journey of every pregnancy is different.

But suddenly when I became a mother everything changed. I wanted to put my baby on diapers because I was too tired to keep changing the cloth nappy and I was looked down upon. I was not confident to hold my baby for 3 days because I was scared of her wobbly head and I was being snapped by my relatives. I was told that some random cousin of mine had this motherhood all sorted, why can’t I do the same. My cousin always made motherhood look like a fairy tale, whereas for me initial one and a half month was a nightmare. C-section, backpain, a wailing child and a huge expectation to live up to. Constantly I was reminded what a ridiculous job I am doing.

Today my daughter is 6.5 months. I started bathing her on my own after she turned two months. My friend still doesn’t have the confidence to bathe her baby. Does that mean she is a bad mother? Absolutely not. Whatever I have learnt with my experience, is that just like every baby and pregnancy is different, every mother is also different. Just like every child reaches their milestones at their own pace, every mother learns to do things with her baby according to her sweet time. Some may learn to latch first while the other may learn to hold the baby first. Not every mother knows how to change nappy perfectly and that’s fine.

There is a reason god made me the mother of my child. Biologically, there is nobody better equipped to take care of my baby. So, what if I still keep losing her wash cloth and end up buying a new set, what matters at the end is my baby smiles when she looks at me. She knows that I am her mother. When she is sleepy, there is nobody who could put her down to sleep. Just like an apple doesn’t fall far away from the tree, my baby crawls towards me when she needs someone.

Also, one must also never forget that every mother wants the best for their child. You may not agree to her methods but that doesn’t make them wrong.

 

 

 

Aditi SrivastavaAditi Srivastava is a part time software engineer, part time aspiring blogger and a full time hands on mom to a baby girl named Vedika. She writes about millenial couples and parenting from her own personal experience. She strongly believes in #equalparenting.

 

 

 

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18 comments

  • Beautifully written… Congratulations dear

    Roshni Kushwaha
  • Very well written Aditi !!
    Many Congratulations.

    Can’t wait to read more of your writing.

    Priyanka
  • Beautifully written , waiting to read many such articles from you , about your experiences .

    Kevin
  • Beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    Sukriti Mohan
  • Very well formulated..Keep it up, God bless..

    I know Aditi since 14 years.
    If she has written something, it must be true and certainly will be with experience and knowledge.

    A girl with practical approach and positive attitude who is a good friend, nice daughter, supportive wife and surely will be a one of the best mothers..

    Looking forward to read your more articles soon..

    Aditya Burman
  • Very well formulated..Keep it up, God bless..

    I know Aditi since 14 years.
    If she has written something, it must be true and certainly will be with experience and knowledge.

    A girl with practical approach and positive attitude who is a good friend, nice daughter, supportive wife and surely will be a one of the best mothers..

    Looking forward to read your more articles soon..

    Aditya Burman
  • Beautifully penned it, Aditi. You have come a long way not just as a mother but also as a person.

    Akanksha Bisen
  • It’s a great read not only for mothers but everyone who knows a mother

    Yashi
  • Beautifully expressed and penned down!! I have only heard the fairy tale side of motherhood from everyone, but you have gracefully told about the other side too! Can totally relate with. More power to you Mommy!!

    Divya
  • I loved reading your heart pourings..so honest and so candid indeed. A very profound message that you have iterated in such a simple and captivating way. Keep it up and keep writing..and keep enjoying motherhood. It’s a divine learning experience

    Smita Pradhan
  • Hi Aditi, I really appreciate your work. Keep it up.

    Kanika kapoor
  • Hi Aditi, Congratulations on beautifully penning the experience. I like the way you have written on how one need not be perfection and can reach the requirement in their own speed. Keep on the good work.

    Prashant
  • Happy and proud to read your article…hope many more mothers understand this and act accordingly….

    Anuja Srivastava
  • Many shall share your experience. Many tentative queries are answered. Many will ratify your meticulous writeup. May it keep reaching to many.

    Pushpendra
  • Excellent blog, Aditi Ji! Very well worded and very aptly put. Especially your commencing comment – "Don’t compare your child with anyone, every child is different " is really excellent and rightly mentioned! How I wish every parent today realises this and contemplates on the same!
    Kudos to you on such an excellent, blog! Very well written!! Hats off!!!

    Dr Nagaraj Vaidyaraju
  • I couldn’t agree more with you. Very well written.

    Shalini
  • I totally agree with you. More power to you!

    Shivendra
  • Nice blog

    Sukant

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