All about Myths Around the Modern Motherhood (and busting them!)

So you are either an expecting or a new-mom and you have scores of people around you to tell what to do and not to do as a new-mom. They have had experienced maternity and so they know it all too well, you think. Dollops of unsolicited advices is heaped on you, as if going through the emotional rollercoaster as a new-mom wasn’t enough.

But, is all the ‘experience’ worth paying heed to? Does it really happen the way they are saying? Let’s sort the truth from the myth and see how much of the handed-down advice holds a firm ground.

Myth 1: Motherhood is all about happiness and bonding

A gush of joy and happiness will sweep you off your feet as you bond with your baby the moment you set your eyes on them.

Truth:
The happiness around maternity does come knocking on the door, but it might be delayed. Most women do not feel connected to their newborn instantly which is normal. Allow yourself some time instead of lamenting, ‘I do not love my baby. What kind of a mom I am?!’ The connection and bonding happens over time as your newborn grows and you spend time with them. So, ladies, do not feel guilty if you feel no connection with your newborn right after they are pulled out of you.

Myth 2: Your baby is all you should think and care about

Your day should begin with your baby and end with them, not to forget spending every minute of your existence worrying about them and their well-being.

Truth:
While we understand and agree that motherhood is a huge responsibility where you are accountable for the well-being of a helpless newborn, you do not stop having a life of your own cause you are a mom. Never ever neglect yourself. Take as much care of yourself (or even more!) as you do for your newborn. Follow your dreams, pursue your hobbies, and devote time to self-care and me-time.
Remember, happy mom = happy baby!

Myth 3: PPD (Post-Partum Depression) is uncommon and not a big concern

Oh, depression and you? Nah! PPD is not very common. This is not something you should bother about.

Truth:
PPD, if ignored, can become a matter of grave concern. The cases of PPD continue to be on the rise as the responsibilities of motherhood take a toll on the new mothers and their well-being. If it can happen to others, it can happen to anyone! Meet people, talk about your anxieties, share your responsibilities, spend some me-time to recover, and, if necessary, seek professional help.

Myth 4: Good mothers are selfless and sacrificing

You are not good enough if you do not sacrifice things for your child. Stop thinking of yourself and your needs. Your priority should be your child.

Truth:
There are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ labels for mothers. You are an individual in your own right and your happiness is of no less importance. Instead of burdening your child with, ‘Oh, I gave it up all just for you!’, show them how well you took care of yourself and your aspirations. Never compromise on your happiness or mental well-being.

So here we have listed and busted some of the prevalent myths that surround maternity. However, the sad reality is that there are many more myths that do the rounds under the garb of ‘advice’ and ‘experience’. Let’s not pay heed to any of them, and do motherhood the way we want to!

About the author:

Vichitra Goel is a post graduate in English literature and has worked as a University Professor till the time she became a mother. Since then she's been busy raising a little reader, writing, Instagramming, DIY-ing, hoarding craft-supplies, and procrastinating decluttering!