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11 Signs Your Child Is Not Ready For Potty Training

by Shailja Mishra 16 Sep 2021 0 Comments


When children are born, all their body functions are involuntary. They have no control over their Pee and poo. They are unaware of when to pass it and how to hold it. As they grow and through training, they will know when and where to do so. Until a certain age, we need to use nappies and diapers to counter this issue.

Convert the potty training into a natural process and slowly get the child to be potty trained rather than automatically change their lives. As a parent, you will have to understand the signs your child is not ready for potty training. It’s not a defect, and every child will learn at their own pace and no parent should force the child early on. 

11 Signs Your Child is Not Ready For Potty Training

Don’t begin too early nor too late to potty train your child. Usually, after 18 months to two years of age is ideal to start training the child. Don’t pressurize the child into getting potty trained because it can affect them physically and mentally. It becomes a priority to read the signs your child is not ready for potty training.

The child is physically not ready as their bladder isn’t trained to voluntarily hold on to the urine or hold onto their stools. Mentally they don’t understand why they are getting forced because they are just beginning to understand the world. Don’t be in a rush to hurry their pace, and be patient with your child.

Cognitive Signs of Readiness For Toilet Training

  • The child can stay without wetting the nappy for two hours
  • Able to express in gestures or words its need to poop or Pee
  • Has curiosity when someone visits the restroom
  • Can understand simple instructions
  • Is being more independent
  • The child doesn’t like to wear soiled or wet nappies and tries to pull them off
  • The bowel movements are regular
  • Signs of Potty Training Too Early

    There are obvious signs that the child would rather not like your idea of being potty trained

    • The child wouldn’t mind moving around in soiled diapers
    • Being inconsistent with the pee and poo times and may do when they feel so whenever and wherever
    • Not having any interest to try to use the potty and doesn’t want even to have a go
    • Cries and throws tantrums when you mention using the potty
    • Tries to hold its Pee or poop when you try to get it to use the potty
    • Makes all attempts to not go near a potty 
    • May not like sitting on a potty hence avoiding doesn’t like the idea of confining a place would rather do it anywhere
    • The clothes you put the kid in make it difficult for the child to want to try and attempt to get potty trained, especially onesies
    • If the child is constipated and doesn’t drink enough water or food is fed to the child. They would want to avoid the potty business altogether for fear of putting pressure and pain.
    • They are afraid of falling into the commode
    • Very interested in playing and forgets to go for the whole day

    Signs a Toddler needs to Pee

     The child understands wetness and doesn’t like to be in a soiled nappy for long.  It may be observed that all people in the family go to a specific place to poo or Pee and set their minds to try it out. 

    It’s even great if the child has a slightly older sibling who is already potty trained. The child will easily follow suit as they love to mimic someone closer to their age. It will be much faster to train the child.

     A constipated child will find passing stools uneasy; it is hard to potty train the child as they feel the discomfort and don’t want to be in the moment and try to escape by holding as long as possible to avoid passing the stools.

    How to Know if The Child is Not Ready For Potty Training

    Initially, when you start very early and not the prescribed age for potty training, you understand that the child is not ready. Compelling the child may make it more stubborn or afraid of the whole process. There would be too much of a struggle and ending two frustrated individuals. You may try the initiation, but if it fails, give a child a break and take it up after a break for a month and try again when the child feels ready.

    What not do during potty training

  • Don’t force the child to sit on the potty seat for long if they don’t have the urge to pass their stools or Pee. As a parent, you have to know when to quit potty training.
  • Please don’t start the routine with the bribe because the child will demand it each time.
    • Learn to be patient and don’t be abusive towards the child and punish it for not following the instructions
    • Initially, they may get up halfway through or, in their hurry, would have peed or pooped a little in their pants before trying to get the pants off and sitting on the potty seat. Don’t be harsh and discourage the child.
    • Don’t be over-indulgent. Praise the child when they do it right but not an outright celebration because the child feels that the family loves them only when they do something right.


    Potty training is a milestone in child development, but every child may not learn it at the prescribed age and time. Pushing the child will affect the child’s development. Please give the child some time to indicate that it would want to go to the loo or use a potty. Just because it may not reciprocate your enthusiasm, don’t show your frustration on the child or stress yourself out for not being a good parent.

     Abusing the child, calling it names or punishing it for not getting potty trained will impact the child psychologically. It may even become afraid to use the potty in the future or get nightmares. Patience would be the key to getting your child potty trained and not enforcing it early on.



    Shailja is a writer, blogger & a content curator by profession. In addition, Shailja also works as a translator at parikshaadda.com. She thinks that writing is a way to express your thoughts; it is the best way to convey your thoughts to lots of people at one time. Along with all these she is also pursuing the full-time job of motherhood. You can reach her on https://www.linkedin.com/in/shailja-mishra-37666b176/ or shailjamishra027.sm20@gmail.com

     Found this article useful? Read more blogs at www.themomstore.in 

    Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this post are the personal views of the author. They do not necessarily reflect the views of The Mom Store.

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